Hello all!

I thought that I’d try something a little different… Write out the steps for the sex magic ritual since today kicks off our container!!

A place with privacy and room to stretch out: fundamental

After you set up your space:

You’re welcome to create a cocoon of your own making to keep you safe during your practice. I love love love wrapping myself and my practice up in unconditonal love for safety.

Give yourself the treat of a few grounding breaths…

Settle on your desire whether it be love or money or projects or whatever your heart’s desires. As this settles into your system, what does it look like in your five senses? Taste, touch, smell, sight, and hearing. You’re welcome to use real items to help with this rather than just be bound to what your mind can conjure with prompts. Like I used minced garlic for smell during some rituals. Have fun with this since it’s your practice.

A thing about heart’s desires? They have the best chance of flourishing when they’re based in free will and gratitude. Stating even one thing to be grateful for? Opens your heart to far more possibilities since our heart may not always translate our desires EXACTLY how we expect.

And dudes??? I absolutely grateful to be alive!! Such a gift.

Our brains now get to relax while we move into breathing with movement. Feel free to touch your body while you move. Enjoy being with you and exploring.

Emily Nagoski talks about an idea in her book “Come AsYou Are“… Release orgasm as the ritual’s objective. Yes. It can help your heart desires manifest faster…

BUT BUT BUT

If you’re treating orgasm like the only objective of your ritual? Soooooooooo much pleasure will be lost.

Huh?

See… The ritual is about connecting you to your eros and erotic energy. Such potent forces capable of helping you manifest so incredible much. They can help even more when it’s about savoring them in consentual ways with yourself.

Cuz this is also about what they talk extensively about in the Ethical Slut: How can other people know what you like if you don’t know for yourself? Learning your expanses and limits? Incredible way to honor yourself. If all your body wants is to do this practice energically on a given day? Total blessing too.

Pushing for orgasm also leaks out all that amazing energy. Savoring your body to allow for orgasm if it comes? Delightful. As you work with that vibrant energy, it gets easier and easier to open your ENTIRE body to it rather than trapping it into your pussy or cock or however your sex appears. My teacher Layla talks about moving the energy through your chakra bands.

When you hit your pinnacle of pleasure whatever it looks like for you? Tap back into your heart’s desire to infuse the two with your five senses.

Feel free to bask in this incredible glow in whatever fills your heart with joy… Dancing or stillness or hugging yourself or laughing or whatever else comes to mind…

And when you’re ready? You’re welcome to release that cocoon of unconditional love since your ritual will be complete.

You’re welcome to cut yourself some slack to play with this ritual rather than forcing perfection. It works best when you give yourself the chance to practice with it instead of doing a “one and done.” Yes. I’m happy to admit that I was beyond awkward when first starting with this. As I haven’t done the full ritual since November 2025?? I was rusty today when I did my first practice. Still fun.

Feel free to reach out with questions:

renewreleaseeb @ gmail.com

406-272-5307

As always: Have a glamrous day for fun!!

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