Hello!

I’ve spent most of my life caring for others in some capacity. Yes. Part of my work has been a caregiver for 20+ years to every walk of life. That’s the visible expression of this…

And the invisible?

Doing unpaid emotional labor.

Aaaahhhhhhh!?!

What the heck does that mean?

It goes well beyond that concept of “read the room” where you become aware of your surrondings and how the people in them engage.

Cuz yes!!!

There’s real value in being cognizant of how you show up.

AND???

Twisting yourself into a pretzel so much so that you lose yourself. A great example in my life is when I was expected to be a significant other, work in a family business, care for that entire family, run other businesses, help on creative projects, be domestic around the house, have a super model body, drop everything at any time to accodommate them all whenever they needed it, and go to social events my partner chose. I would be able to take care of myself after I did all that.

BUT BUT BUT

There was NEVER after all that.

I know! I know! I know!

Total extreme example.

EXCEPT???

I allowed myself to participate in that dynamic until one day??? I said no and walked away. I’ve had much smaller examples in my life that weren’t as obvious. This also wasn’t obvious until I woke up.

What caused me to wake up?

I started to love myself and trust myself. Yup. I’ve been talking about studying under Layla Martin. Her focus is sex and love all starting with self-love. So? As I’m rolling out my coaching applying her methods, it’s about learning to love yourself. I’ll be writing about all this more and more while I build on this.

To say that I’m excited????

Yippie!!!!

I’ll also not picking on that dynamic cuz it is what it is. It was just sustainable in the long run for me cuz I’ve got other shit to do.

As always: Have a glamorous day for fun!!

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