Helllllllloooooo!

I decided to have a coy smile in my photo for today’s breathwork check in.

Why? Cuz dudes and dudettes!?!

I’m about to do full disclosure on my practice.

And?

I’ve circled around the idea of “pussy cupping” since early in this round of blog posts. I also refer people to my source: Pussy by Mama Gena.

But my practice is slightly different from what she advocates.

Her approach is to touch your pussy for up to a few minutes at a time several times a day for three weeks. You can put your hand directly on the skin or on top of your clothes, I this can be good for some people.

Me? That practice would be disruptive. So? I combine the pussy cupping with my conscious connected breathing for a straight 30 minutes. Sometimes on top of clothes while other times on the skin. The short period feels too much like pawing to me. Not a good fit for me with my sexual trauma history.

And that first time that I set my hand my pussy for a extended period felt surreal and uncomfortable.

BUT BUT BUT? A short time later? I came up with the model for my indie film company that I plan to set up when I move. And I’m coming up with a mini model of it to export to here in Montana since I want to divide my time. Very cool. I’ve also absolutely had some fear come up after the practice too. It’s residual fear that wants to be felt for me to move past it. A cleaner and cleaner sense of peace lands in my body the more that I allow myself to simply feel instead of shut down.

I’m sharing this cuz I’m in my second 21 day block of my 105 breathwork practice. The first block was more of a shit show where anything went to get me back up to speed. This second batch one is the conscious connected breathing with the pussy cupping. I just finished day 28. Here’s my check in video cuz I’m practicing being in front of the camera: Video

WAIT!?! There’s more…

As I was explaining my pussy cupping/conscious connected breathwork practice to my breathwork process partner? I realized that he could do his own version. After all… Women aren’t the only ones with violence and programming around sex. Men have a shit ton around sex too.

So?

I think “penis cupping” should be a thing too. All men need to do is to set their hand on their penis. Just let it sit. You can dictate the time for what feels best to you. The key? Allow yourself to feel whatever comes up. Give yourself some space after the fact too.

Sure. I may feel weird at first except?? If you give yourself the space to do it for a period of time instead of a one and done? It’ll get easier and more calming.

The bigger objective?

You ground yourself in your own sexuality regardless of your sex or gender or lack thereof. If you feel safe in your own body with your own sexuality??? It allows your whole body to participate in your sexual experiences instead of the more common disconnected head and genitals. Emily Nagoski, Ph.D talks about this in her book “Come As You Are.” This book talks about sex relative to both sexes except its skewed more towards women’s sexuality. Still it’s helpful for men in heterosexual relationships to also help them deconstruct all the silly societal myths around women and sex.

As always: Have a glamorous day for fun!

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