Hello!

If you’ve been reading my blogs for a minute, you’d know that some sex positive stuff appears in them. An example is me talking about doing a sex magic ritual 105 times in a grounding way rather than a performative way. I also plan to present more sex positive content once I start Layla Martin‘s class on January 5, 2026.

What does this have to do with the title? Someone reached out to me. I hadn’t thought too much of it cuz it was a “friend” and a fellow filmmaker at that. He presented himself to be “helpful” and wanting me to be a resource for me. And then he asked the “pussy cupping” that I mention in my Healing in Real Time blog. I explained that I learned about it in Mama Gena’s Pussy book. If you’re not familiar, it can be a girl power version of EDMR along with simply being grounding.

So? I did what any reasonable human would do: I sent the resource to him AND HIS WIFE for them to work on it together. She was also my friend. He came back with saying that she doesn’t read much. And when he twice wrote that he didn’t know where the conversation would lead along with subtly trying to get me reveal more to him than I wanted: This was despite me stating that our exchange meant nothing? Yup. I reached out to his wife to shut it down since it was clear that he wasn’t acting integrity.

They blocked me rather than acknowledge he acted like a scum,. Why share this? Writing sex positive content does not mean that I’m sexually available to everyone. It means that I’m wanting to challenge norms like how this man behaved. I’m confident that it was probably shocked to him that I reached out to his wife. I did that for a simple reason: If a married man wants to engage with me about these kinds of conversations, his wife needs to be part of the process or he needs to not talk with me.

Cuz see… My sexual assaults happened in darkness. That meant my word against my attackers. I also responded in what is called “fawning” where I overcompensated and over functioned. This really fucked with me to be honest since it was like…. Why would I do put on a show of seeming like everything was okay when I had just been violated? A simple reason for when I was raped in Cody in the middle of nowhere? I didn’t want to be left for dead. Yes. That’s a harsh truth.

To honor that young woman? I’m now ready to speak out. Yes. That’s been the purpose of my blogs…. AND AND AND? I’m just getting started.

And last but not least – why the odd photo with images inside of images inside of images in front of a closed shower curtain? Images and layers are the core of this topic.

Have a glamorous day on purpose!!

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